"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter.” --Martin Luther King Jr. For all of us who understand that every person has a right to know his true biological heritage, and that of course includes free and unfettered access to his original birth certificate, and to every person who fights to keep families together whenever possible instead of unnecessarily tearing them apart, I want to say this: We can't give up because WE ARE RIGHT AND WE KNOW IT! We are not the first people in history who had to fight tooth and nail for a just and righteous Read More
Much Ado About Nothing?
This post is dedicated to Cherry. Is adoption really much ado about nothing as the prevailing view wants us to believe? Is the fact that the adoptive parents love the child, and that most people don’t even bat an eye anymore when learning that a child is adopted, mean that adoption is now a non-issue? Hardly! I consider myself a test case since I grew up with 4 siblings, all of whom were biological kids. Some were the children of my adoptive parents and others the child of one adoptive parent and a stepparent. But what they all had in common was that they were being raised by or Read More
Keep Your Baby, Nolee
Nolee, I was so alarmed by your story and your comment that I could hardly sleep. Please, please, please keep your baby. You say that you are struggling with depression and alcohol and that you want to work on these problems before you become a mother. Well, I have news for you. I bet if you give your child up for adoption these problems will become even worse. Adoption could make your depression ten times, no, a hundred times, no, a thousand times worse, and with your predilection to alcohol you may very well turn to drink even more in order to cope. As first mothers before you have found, Read More
The Child’s Best Interest Fallacy
The more I read and learn about adoption, the more I'm convinced the problems associated with the practice go much deeper than just the act itself. Our problems are based in our culture, and the way adoptions are executed today is a symptom of those cultural issues. The adoption industry is taking advantage and making a lot of money. Unfortunately, it is also leaving a lot of bodies in its wake. Society at large does not comprehend the issues because they are so caught up in the concept of "the child's best interest." What isn't realized is "the child's best Read More