This post is dedicated to Cherry. Is adoption really much ado about nothing as the prevailing view wants us to believe? Is the fact that the adoptive parents love the child, and that most people don’t even bat an eye anymore when learning that a child is adopted, mean that adoption is now a non-issue? Hardly! I consider myself a test case since I grew up with 4 siblings, all of whom were biological kids. Some were the children of my adoptive parents and others the child of one adoptive parent and a stepparent. But what they all had in common was that they were being raised by or Read More
What were the chances?
"Of all the jazz joints in all the towns in all the world, he walks into mine."* This post may be surprising to my regular readers since I usually tell my story and my views on adoption in more general terms. But the reason I haven’t been writing as much of late is because I have been brokenhearted. Something happened to me this past summer which was a trigger for memories of an event that happened 30 plus years ago, and the best way to describe myself these days is as a ‘discombobulated emotional mess.’ I alluded to some of these issues in my last post where I wrote about how adoption made Read More
Unwanted
Unwanted. Isn't that really the key? Isn't that what makes being adopted hurt so darn much? To think that you were unwanted by your own parents, by the very people who created you and brought you into this world. In my opinion, there can be no more profound rejection than being rejected by one's own parents. There is no boyfriend (or girlfriend) or husband (or wife) who can reject you to the same degree that your parents can. The only thing that might be analogous is being rejected by one's own children. But even that is on a different level. But the adoption industry is dependent on Read More