I’ve tried quite a few times in the last week and a half to sit down and write a post. It’s been difficult. I have three posts started and sitting in my post queue waiting to be finished and published. I’ve deleted four others. I just can’t seem to find the motivation or energy to finish them. The letter we received from my granddaughter’s a-dad is taking it’s toll. In addition, the rest of my husbands family has made it clear that it’s “nothing that concerns them.” It’s funny they didn’t take that stance when my daughter was pregnant.
As the blogger in the post I mention stated, no one would deny 9/11 or Holocaust victims their grief or loss. I say neither would anyone deny them their need for justice. The Australian Government is in the process of apologizing to all of the women and children who were victims of forced adoptions. That is a step in the right direction. Why does our government persist in it’s denial of what happened to the women and children in this country during the BSE and what continues to happen today.
We see these horrible shows like “I’m having Their Baby”, and there is, to date, no outrage politically or socially. There is no acknowledgement at all to this blatant coercion being broadcast for all to see. What’s worse is people are watching and believing this is a true picture of adoption. No loss, no trauma. If one of the expectant mothers changes her mind, well “she’s a b***h for stringing those poor people along”. This is the way things are ingrained into our culture as being acceptable. The grief and loss suffered by first mothers and adoptees is seen as aberrations of the norm. As long as these things are being taught as truth, adoption victims will not get any justice.
In this blog and in my life, I am trying to give my daughter, granddaughter, husband and our other two children justice because I am partially responsible for some of those injustices that were committed. I will continue to be proactive in trying to change things to recognize their losses and to atone for my sins. I hope that my endeavors are fruitful, but I acknowledge that’s not likely. I won’t let that stop me, though. My family, and all who have been cheated, lied to and denied their civil rights due to adoption deserve justice just as the victims of 9/11 or the Holocaust deserve justice; however, they will not have memorials or museums dedicated to their loss. It’s unlikely they will ever even get an apology from the powers that allow these atrocities to continue in this country. Yet they deserve an apology at the very least. If you would have asked me this five years ago, I wouldn’t have agreed. I would have said they did it to themselves, and the adoptees should be grateful their adoptive families were there. I was one of the indoctrinated against first mothers. I have since learned the folly of my ways.
“In the matters of truth and justice, there is no difference in large and small problems, for issues concerning the treatment of people are all the same.” ~Albert Einstein~