“The world will not be destroyed by those who do evil, but by those who watch them without doing anything.”
In case you haven’t heard. Jake Strickland lost his battle to keep his son.
Taking children from fathers (and mothers) who have not freely given their children up for adoption is the new Baby Scoop Era for the 21st century. Since there are so few domestic newborns available for adoption, and so many singles and couples looking to adopt, using legal chicanery to in essence ‘steal’ people’s children is what our country has come to, in my opinion, when it comes to adoption. Will we never learn? I can’t even imagine what it’s going to be like for these children when they have to deal with all of the issues that adoption causes and then discover that they weren’t given up by both of their parents in the first place. Living life as an adoptee (a condition which we adoptees know is lifelong) could have totally been avoided. And I don’t know how these children will ever be able to trust their adoptive parents again. This is going to create such a psychological mess for these children I can’t even wrap my head around it. I hope the adoption facilitators of these unnecessary forced adoptions are planning to pay for long-term counseling for these children. They should be legally mandated to do so. I believe these children will need it and should be entitled to such help.
All I can say is: Heaven help the people who are involved with this. Someday you may have to pay for what you’ve done. The original Baby Scoop Era (1945 to 1972) was based on shaky premises and bogus reasoning. And I don’t see where things have changed very much. These new dubious means of placing children for adoption against their parent’s will involve shaky premises and bogus reasoning that is now, to our horror, being sanctioned by law. And when I think about the women involved in these immoral, and what should be illegal, proceedings, I’m reminded of this quote attributed to Madeleine Albright, and made famous recently by singer Taylor Swift…”There’s a special place in hell for women who don’t help other women.”
But even if you do not care about what women do to other women, you should at least have enough of a heart to care about what happens to innocent children: Children who have the right to retain their place in their biological tree where they are wanted and will be safe, children who have the right to their true ancestry and to represent the next generation of their family’s lineage, children who never had any obligation to be someone else’s “gift” or to “complete” someone else’s family; a family where they don’t genuinely belong. And a family that is no better for them, even if there is more money, than the family they were born to, where they are loved and will most likely fit in the best.
I was reading a book recently admonishing women to look for a partner early in life since their biological clock is ticking much earlier than they realize. The book reminds readers that options, other than carrying and delivering one’s own child, are costly and time consuming. Adoption, in particular, the author points out can take many years and cost upwards of $30,000. But I have to wonder why prospective adoptive parents never seem to question WHY adoption takes so long. They seem to only consider that fact from their own point of view (i.e. that the wait for someone else’s child is an annoyance and inconvenience to them). But could it be that expectant parents, even young unmarried expectant parents, are not lining up to give their children to strangers? That most people really want to keep their own kids? So many books on life planning geared towards women present adoption as a neutral option. They never seem to show any understanding, or even the slightest implication, of the true devastating impact of adoption on the natural mother and/or father and the child. The authors simply write about adoption as one option among many.
Even if you believe that most adoptees do “just fine”, it is never in a child’s best interest to be given away, especially against his own parent’s will, to be raised by strangers. So I must ask, “How many more innocent children will we deny the right to their own biological family and ancestral lineage, and a life without feeling like they were rejected and unwanted, before we stop this madness?”
Jake Strickland lost his battle to keep his son, and we in the adoption reform community are heartbroken. From where I sit, this outcome sets another terrible and dangerous legal precedent when it comes to adoption.
N.B. In case anyone is having difficulty reading the cartoon, it says: “I’m sorry Mr. Campoverde, it sounded like you said you’re basing your case on your legal rights as a father.”