Veronica Brown’s unethical adoption has dominated the news lately, but there is another case in Rhode Island of a young man, Noah Medeiros, seeking custody of his daughter Hope. The fact is, many unwed fathers, and even some fathers actually married to the mothers like Terry Achane, are having their rights stripped before they even know they are fathers. They aren’t being given time to decide if they want to parent. They aren’t given any rights at all.
I received a message yesterday from Ms. Bain which explained how this entire situation has affected her and her son.
“this whole situation is literally effecting my health right now, so i have not been online as often as usual. the doctor told me I will not get my thyroid levels back to normal unless I “de-stress” which is IMPOSSIBLE with all this going on.”
“its ridiculous. we need to get this baby home where she belongs so we can get back to a normal family life! My son is going through some severe depression right now. he was always the happy-go-lucky optimist. when i see him laying in the bed in the baby’s room at night crying when he thinks i am asleep kills me”
This is tragically another case of big business adoption violating a father’s civil rights. I wonder how the potential adoptive couple can consider themselves justified in keeping this child. This father wants to parent his child. This family wants their little girl raised with her people, not strangers. They do not want her stripped of her identity.
All courts in this land consider you innocent until proven guilty. People are not unfit to raise their own children before ever even parenting or simply because their paychecks, bank accounts, and houses may be smaller than a potential adoptive parents. My granddaughter’s father was not financially able to take care of his daughter, but I would have never condoned my daughter giving their child up to adoption had he not agreed.
Please consider helping this family. The more fights won by fathers whose children have been unlawfully taken the better it is for all of us. This fight isn’t just about father’s rights, it’s about women’s rights, as well. An article in Indian Country Today Media Network speaking about Dusten Brown’s custody case explains when unmarried fathers aren’t guaranteed parental rights, unmarried mothers are at risk, as well. If Dusten Brown loses his daughter, it will make it much easier for low income parents to lose their parents to lose their children which affects single mothers more so than single fathers.
I personally feel if we, as women, cannot have it both ways. We cannot hold men responsible only when it is convenient and violate their parental rights when it isn’t.
Ms. Bain and her son live in Massachusetts, but the fight for custody is in Rhode Island where the baby’s mother lives. If you can help please go to http://www.gofundme.com/2mus9w and give to this family so they can continue the fight to get their daughter and granddaughter back with her family where she belongs.
Go here to view a news story on this father’s fight: http://www.turnto10.com/story/22809004/man-fights-for-custody-of-3-month-old-girl.
And the Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/groups/BringingHopeHome/