I had a conversation through Facebook a little over a week ago with Doreen Bain, Noah Medeiros’s mom and Hope’s grandmother. I wrote about their plight to get their daughter and granddaughter returned to them in my last post here. She told me some of the things the lawyer said to her and her son during their meeting and some of the things the lawyer and the agency are doing to delay the fight so they have a better chance at “winning”. There is a witness to these statements. A friend who is a lawyer in Massachusetts who accompanied them for support. Here are a few of the tidbits:
“We will bring into evidence conversations between you (Noah Mederios) and the birth mother, whether you remember these conversations or not it will be a he said/she said.” When I (Doreen) said, “More like lying/perjury” the lawyer smirked and said, “Well, whatever it takes.”
My son (Noah) said, “I have a wonderful support system in place.” She (the lawyer for the adoption agency) said, “Well, support systems come and go.”
“This is my son, and MY granddaughter, I am not going anywhere.” She (the lawyer) stated, “Well, you could drop dead tomorrow.”
They were told posting the baby’s picture on Facebook was “child neglect” because they had exposed the baby to pedophiles.
Doreen reported the lawyer and agency didn’t show for court in July. A new court date was set for August 15th where they lied to the judge saying they were not served papers to show in July even though there was proof of service.
The lawyer informed Noah and Doreen they would,
“stall and drag out the court proceedings so long, you will lose your job and though you may get her in the end, she will be a year old before you do and good luck bonding with her then.”
“If you sign the papers we will let you see her, but if you don’t you will NEVER be allowed to see her.”
It is tiring to hear people say the case of Dusten Brown and Veronica Brown (Ronnie Brown to her family) is an anomaly. It is tiring to observe people ignore all the events which landed them all in the present predicament. Ronnie Brown was taken from Oklahoma based on fraudulent information. So, we should go back to the beginning of this case and determine if the agency and lawyer handling Ronnie Brown’s adoption did so ethically and legally. They claim the natural mother of Ronnie Brown is at fault for supplying an incorrect date of birth and mis-spelling Dusten Brown’s name. Even if they were truly innocent when removing this child from Oklahoma, does that matter? Why does their claim they were given incorrect information now penalize Ronnie Brown and her father?
Are any of the comments made to Noah Mederios and his mother surprising? Are the questionable actions by the South Carolina agency and their lawyer surprising? Not really. Which is a sad thing to say when you are speaking about what should be the rights of the child. They are totally ignored in both of these cases. They mean nothing. The lawyers are working for the agency and the potential adoptive parents. They do not care about the child or their natural parents only the paying customer.
In the United States an organization of attorneys exists who, according to their website, “practice, or have otherwise distinguished themselves, in the field of adoption law.” They claim they promote “ethical adoption practices” yet they filed an amicus brief on behalf of the Capobianco’s. They did this knowing what was uncovered in the South Carolina court proceedings regarding the duplicitous behavior of the natural mother. They’ve published press releases admonishing the continued fight by Dusten Brown and the Cherokee Nation since the SCOTUS ruling and South Carolina’s questionable finalization of the adoption of Ronnie Brown. It’s interesting they did not admonish the C’s for continuing litigation to the Supreme Court of the United States after the South Carolina courts ruled against them. The organization of adoption attorney’s supported the parties responsible for paying the bill i.e. the adoptive parents. Lawyers are about winning and money. Adoption is not and never should be about winning or money.
When I responded to Doreen in the conversation on Facebook I told her I thought this was a game to these people. A strategy. They don’t have a leg to stand on and you can tell by how increasingly nasty their comments become. They are likely to get nastier as they try to force Noah Mederios and his mother to give up. My guess is this is a successful tactic in many of their dealings with unwed fathers, and I would say they are successful bullying expectant mothers too. So, these reports about adoption agencies and adoption attorney’s unethical behavior whose actions seem only in their own best interests are not reports of unusual events. They are reports from people like Dusten Brown, Noah Mederios, Doreen Bain and the many, many others who are choosing to stand up to agencies and lawyers conducting business as usual.
To learn more about the procedures that should be followed when removing a child from one state to be adopted in another, and how ICPC and ICWA should work together there is an informative document here.
To help Noah Mederios with his fight to get his daughter you can donate here.
If you know of any others, please add them in the comments.