Tonight Cassi at Adoption Truth posted a message asking readers to help a grandmother with advice on how to get her daughter to reconsider adoption for her unborn child. Since this is a subject near and dear to me, I commented giving what little advice I have and sent my thoughts and prayers to the woman asking for help. I hope beyond hope that she is able to convince her daughter to reconsider. When I hear something like this, I feel like I’m obligated to give advice. For example, a few weeks ago I was searching Yahoo! for something, and I came across this girl who had posted a question about what to ask the prospective adoptive parents she was going to meet. The question had already been closed, and I noted the girl said her due date was in August 2012. So, I took it upon myself to email this girl and give her websites such as Origins-USA and first mother and adoptee blogs to check out before she made a decision. She wrote back and thanked me, and said she and her boyfriend were reconsidering the whole “adoption plan”. I apologized for being so forward. I would never have done anything like that normally. I just keep wishing someone would have done that for me or my daughter.
When I commented on Cassi’s blog, I made assumptions about the PAP’s and included those assumptions in my comment. Another contributor, Anonymous at 8:15, was a little perturbed by what I and another contributor had assumed about the PAP’s. I can certainly understand. After reading what I’d written, I kind of agreed I shouldn’t have made the comments. It really had no place in the purpose of the request. I would go back and apologize for the assumption being included in the comment, but I don’t want to start a big “thing” that will detract from the purpose of the post.
So, here I am. I won’t be able to sleep until I’ve said my piece.
I don’t want my blog to be a PAP or AP bashing site, and I don’t want to bash anyone on another blog. I want to be positive. You might notice I say little if anything about PAP’s or AP’s. That’s because I have not had anything constructive to say. Of course, I’m prejudiced. I’ve seen and read of too many promises being broken by that particular group.. I know there are wonderful AP’s out there. I even follow their blogs. However, these are the AP’s that have seen and recognized there are issues with the adoption system as it exists today. So, to Anonymous 8:15 over at Cassi’s blog, I apologize for making that assumption about the PAP’s mentioned. I shouldn’t have included that in my reply. However, we are all guilty of making assumptions. I only wish to try and save a few people from experiencing what my family has experienced.